• Misbah Haque

Dealing With Fear & Uncertainty in Your Fitness Career



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I had a conversation with somebody and he really inspired me in the sense of like, he was asking questions about getting over the fear. Which one of the things that I think is challenging is a career, in fitness, right? Making a full-time living at it or making some type of living at it in which you can also live like a normal life. And you're not just burned out. And just the fitness pro. So I wanted to dig into that a little bit today. This will be helpful for anybody who I guess is, does coaching of any form.



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I think if you can spot the parallels between, If you're a trainer or an instructor, there are still ways that you can take coaching principles and apply them to the people who come to your class. But my context to fill you in I've done a lot of that. I've done the instructor, but the area that I loved and specialized in, and really, I niched down into, over the course of like 10 years was the remote individualized coaching. And the deliverables for something like that was, writing programs on a weekly basis being responsive to your clients reviewing the video, doing analysis on that, assessing them taking care of nutrition, habits, and consulting. So getting to just listen and understand, you know, make decisions based on that data.



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You would help people achieve whatever goal they wanted. So if it was a lot of people, I didn't get a lot of people that were just like losing weight. It was feeling better in their body. And if all over the course of two, three years which was an awesome thing to get to work with people for that long, just having people in your life, You have a great working relationship for that amount of time, retention is obviously important. And I don't know. So I'm gonna back up and let me think about where I want to start here because the concept of fear to me is just so fascinating. When I think of fear, I think about, you know will Smith.



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Invest WISELY


He's in the pursuit of happiness or something like that. It's like, fear is not real, right. It is a product of your imagination, based on the past or something projection of the future. It does not exist. And, in a context it's like, you kind of have to because there's a lot of fear. Let me tell you, I made a lot of mistakes. I invest, like, I don't know if I've talked about this here already, but I invested $4,000 in a website for somebody to make a website for me that I thought was going to be good. Trusted them saw, somebody else who I really trusted a company, a brand that I knew and we worked together with. And so it was kind of like I saw who made their ups and downs.



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Think Before You Invest


All right. Then I asked if he could make mine. And I can't, it was the worst, one of the worst financial decisions I've ever made. That was stuck with me. Like all of my stuff was with him and he wasn't good in terms of customer service, you know? And there was like lifetime support and don't trust anybody who offers lifetime support. Because you can't guarantee that you don't know if you're going to be around that long. You don't know if your company is going to be above water that long, especially in today's day and age, like not even above water, but you want to just move on doing something else and like, Oh yeah, sorry, you bought this product five years ago, but now, you know all support is over.



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Risk is Everywhere


So there was a lot of fear. I made a lot of bad decisions and the worst part is when I didn't know I was making terrible decisions. I'm really thinking this is going to be a good one. I know it's risky, but I'm going to put my eggs in this basket. And I took a lot of leaps and I think I was just, wasn't like that afraid of risk. And so I took more of it and had its consequences. In terms of getting into debt and then having to get my way out of it. I've invested so much in this fitness stuff, buying all these certifications, like doing competitions, doing orders, t-shirts doing things that I thought I was gonna grow my business that you know that it didn't, but I didn't have the skills or put in the type of work that I needed to do to grow it.



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It’s a Memory


And so that mistake was one of them, scariest ones are just like, is this gonna work? And that was like one of the biggest purchases I ever made, I've invested that in, certifications or masterminds now, but at the time it's like, that was a really crazy thing for me to do where I was. And it was actually because if you think about it in a way, it did get me the job in a career where I dug myself out of that hole and that was beyond thriving. So it did work out in a way, but what ended up happening, was like, I ended up abandoning that website, I lost all of this crazy, amazing content that was just in a curated version of all the work that I've kind of put out there, thing, places I've written for podcasts, I've done stuff like that.



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But I don't know. If we're talking about fear, here's what I realized you have to figure out in a sustainable fashion. How are you going to overcome that fear? And, what I mean by this is like, if you're in a position where you're like, or which most people are aware, you do this part-time and you want to do this full-Time. That's the other thing I always juggled multiple things at once and had success in them. It really wore down my body though, and my mind, I burnt out after years of that, but I realized you can do that. You can expose your body to stress like that, to deal with the fear. You know what I mean, make it work even while you're doing your nine to five, you're training people in the evening.



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You're creating stuff to share, you know, and, deliver to your clients in the morning, you figure out away. And there's a thing that comes up. And here's a really important question that will save you a lot of time in the fitness industry. You gotta ask yourself, do I really want this? Or do I just like the idea of this? Because what it really takes, it works just like anything else, but it can be overwhelming. I'm telling you that it's okay to feel the resistance. And feel the fear. Steven Pressfield talks about resistance. And how it's this, you feel it about things that you care about, just imposter syndrome, feeling like you're not good enough, like being afraid to, open up and, and pick up the pen and start writing, you know well fear is real.



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And if you can figure out how to deal with that, whatever mental tricks you have to do for yourself to overcome that, to heal that you're never going to get rid of it. It's always going to be there, but how do you maneuver through it and not let it grow well, you will absolutely make it. The other part of what I said was doing things in a sustainable fashion. And what I mean by that is you do things for a period of time that are unsustainable, put in an amount of work put in hours per day, use your energy in a way where it's like, you couldn't, right? It's like, you can't stand the stress of finals week, taken Adderall and freaking, keep staying up all night and write in your paper and studying.



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One Foot at a Time


It's like, you can't do that all year round. You need to go into a season after that. And in our adult life, we aren't accustomed to doing, especially in America, right. Where it's just more and more we need more. And that's how we base, you know, a lot of us can base our self-worth and value and or fall into the trap of that. And it's like, Nick, how do you know why? How do you have the self-awareness and intuition to know that this is a period where I'm going to put in work, whether it's today or this week or whatever. And then I'm okay. Maybe you're not thinking about this, not working on this, or thinking about it, doing it way less intensely for the next three weeks. What do you have to do to keep putting one foot in front of the other?



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That's really all that matters. And, you're going to go through the waves where it's like, you feel like you can't do it. There are fear and all this stuff present, but you still gotta do it. And you're going to have times where you fall off the boat and that's totally fine. It's a part of the process. But at some point when that storm passes, do you know, can you get up and keep moving? Because if you can, it'll, you know, it'll work and in fitness, it's all about that. But this, with this line of thinking right of the more and more and more I'm going to put in the work, can I overcome the fear, all the stuff, the mistake with that is that you take that mentality and maybe you're not the right personality type for that raw mentality.



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And you apply that in like the wrong thing. Let's say it's for me; it was kind of personal training one of the things. I was getting all these clubs and classes. I was doing all of these classes where I was like getting to see & to interact with a lot of people, and it was very valuable to me, but it was like once I got to do five, six, seven classes a day, or whatever in a week, it added up to like, as much as my body time could actually handle and realize like, Oh, this is what I'm getting paid for. Like the only energy has gone into this. I don't have any energy to like I'm doing it, but I'm working retail and I'm trying to make it work there while I'm, trying to do this thing that I love and make more money from it and not a crazy amount, literally not have to do the other thing, the other job, the side house, not this be the side hustle anymore.



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Do you know what I'm saying? So in that process, I guess, I'm not telling you to do anything, I'm just sharing experience. It was like going through some of that and telling you that it's normal and what's the trick. Have you used any tricks? This is your prompt for today. It's like, have you used any tricks in the past to overcome the fear when it comes to doing things that contribute to your career or the thing that you want to do? So if it's being a coach or being an instructor, you're putting off that maybe it's that certification. Maybe it's a resume. Maybe it's making a website. Maybe it's a landing page. Maybe it's putting out Instagram posts, whatever it is for you, how in the past, have you overcome that fear?



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What's a pattern you've recognized when the fear rises and, what do you now know, or now just viewing it through this microscope now that we're talking about this and you've thought about it, what do you see? And it's going to be different for everybody, but it's like, what do you notice? What can you do? What mental tricks can you learn maybe to overcome that fear and just expect it, expect that it's going to happen? That's kind of the thing. And when you expect it, You got a fire drill for when a fire happens. There are all sorts of drills now for all sorts of events. And if there's a drill, it may like it works most of the time. So anyway, I'm going to leave you with that. I hope this was helpful. Remember, reach out at marketwithmiz.com or hit me up on Instagram And; Thank you so much for listening. Talk to you next time.


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